It took me close to 30 years to fully appreciate and love who I am. At 41 years old, I really am excited that today we are celebrating International Woman’s Day. Sure, I get it, there seems to be a day where we are nationally and universally recognizing everything under the sun, but in reality, isn’t that what life is all about? To celebrate? To live? We become so involved in our own realities that we forget to stop for a moment and think what we’re doing all this for. So, I truly believe days like this were created to help us stop, think, and celebrate. Today, I celebrate being a woman.
As my friend Beth in California said yesterday, she described herself as this: “I am the eternal dreamer. I dream big and never give up on my dreams. I made California happen, I can make any dream happen…”
How powerful is that???? That we can MAKE things happen? Well, it’s true. Our thoughts immediately put reality into motion. People forget this. The old adage, “be careful what you wish for”, is simply explaining the idea “thoughts become things…” This is what “The Secret” is all about.
We are fierce. We are independent. We are love. We are the wild of the two genders, living in an ecstatic world of chaos, we have the ability to focus and bring peace between the craziness. Our capacity to unconditionally love is so profound, we really have no clue the depths our own emotions can go.
But, because of how deep our emotions are, we find ourselves being labeled. Over emotional, over sensitive, weak, among others. Love is the strongest emotion there is, so how is it that our whole self is full of love, yet we are considered the weaker of the two? Not going into a battle of the sexes, seeing who is “better, stronger, faster”, I am simply implying that people need to not be so quick to judge when you see a woman in a state of bliss. We are MAGICALLY working our true selves when love is the cornerstone of our livelihood.
We have boobs, we get periods, we birth babies, and yet, for some reason, many of us were taught at a young age that this was punishment for being the first of the two genders to sin. Hell, the way I see it, I believe we were GIFTED. When I get my period, I feel more powerful than I do any other time of the month. I create magic in my life. You know we CAN do this!!!! We are a magical gender! Why do you think witches are usually labeled as women???? Because in reality, we ARE magic! I would be hard pressed to say I haven’t met a woman in this life that hasn’t thought that herself. And if you do question your abilities, just for today, let go of that inhibition. Remember what our Creator gave you. USE IT. WORK IT. EMPOWER IT. You would be SHOCKED at the possibilities you have.
I am getting married in 39 days. And up until a couple months ago, I was freaking out that my dress is going to be a little tight because I’ve gained some winter weight. You know what? WHO THE HELL CARES? For years I’ve hated myself, hated my body. Not anymore. I’m gonna work those curves like Vivienne did the night she met Edward on Hollywood Boulevard. Why? Because I’m a woman and dammit, I’m freaking beautiful. And that light within me is gonna shine so bright people are going to have a hard time looking at me the night I walk down that aisle.
I’ve also decided to stop coloring my hair. Yup, you heard it here, folks. I looked at myself in the mirror a few days ago and realized how much I’ve changed. Why would I want to try to look how I did years ago if I am no longer that woman I was years ago? Sure, that’s my own analogy, and no one has to follow me on that. Some women are really petrified of going gray, some just don’t like the look. And that’s awesome as well. Because how you feel inside is how your’re going to reflect your outside. You could be drop dead physically gorgeous, but if you have an ugly heart, trust me, IT SHOWS. I have seen beauty in some of the weirdest ways, but that’s because my eyes see differently than others. I’m okay with being different. I’m okay with wearing skirts that make me look shorter than I already am. I’m okay with wearing dread-locks in my hair. I’m okay with tattoos and piercings on my body. Because if I love who I am inside, all that’s going to show on the outside. I can’t tell you how many people have asked me what the hell my secret is, or what do I do to look so young? It’s because I really do have the soul of a young child. And people can see that in my eyes. And all I want to do is pass that around to show all the women in my life we can ALL have that twinkle, no matter what age we are.
I just wanted to wish all my female peeps a very happy International Woman’s Day. Be fierce, be wild, be proud, and most importantly, be YOU.